Naive Jewish Girls And Manipulative Arab Men
October 13, 2009 No Comments
Jewish girls who date Arab men are not only naive, easily manipulated, and vulnerable, but consorting with the “enemy”, trouble makers, and bringing ruin on the Jewish Nation.
This is according to an interview with a Jewish group that goes out into Israeli communities and hunts down these Jewish girls in an attempt to break up their relationships. So far they have “saved” and “rescued” four girls.
I find this incredibly appalling and small-minded, not to mention racist. These groups make the assumption that the Arab men are manipulating and coercive and that Jewish girls are not in control of their own lives.
These men approach the girl in a nice way. They buy her things. They build trust with the woman so that given some time, the girls just blindly follow them. And with time, one friend follows another, and soon enough, you have a commune made up of these kinds of girls.
A young woman interviewed for this article said that
There are a lot of girls that go out with Arab men because Arab boys are wild. They’re bad boys. Some girls like that. I think they like us because Arab girls are all conservative and wear the covering on their hair and we dress normally.
Rather than being easily manipulated, it seems that these young women are acting just as anyone from any culture would as a teenager: they want to have fun, make friends, have new experiences, and have a fling with a “bad boy”. The fact that these relationships are seen as taboo is probably a plus; what teenager doesn’t have a rebellious streak in them and do a few things just to piss off the establishment?
And let’s not forget that not every interreligious union will be a rebellion. Many of these relationships probably involve love, lust, romance, exploration, and genuine care for their partners. These groups could quite easily be disrupting the flowering of a first love.
The idea of Jewish men dating Arab women is not mentioned once. Clearly this is all for the purpose of being fruitful and multiplying the Jewish population; Jewish law states that a child born to a Jewish mother is automatically legally Jewish, but a child born to a Jewish father is not unless the mother is as well. Thus, if any of these unions led to children, they would not be considered Jewish and in the religious population numbers game this would mean a big loss.
I am all for interracial and interreligious dating. However, what these vigilante hunters do not seem to understand is that they rarely work out because there are often huge problems to overcome. They are harassing and victimising people who may eventually break up anyways. Maybe we should let them enjoy themselves while they can and come to their own decisions about whether or not to continue their relationship.
These vigilante hunters have the wrong approach. If their religion is as good as they say then regardless of what a young rebellious girl does in her teens she will come back to the religion as a mature woman – certainly it’s not worth harassing and vicitmising someone like this. And if she doesn’t come back, then they didn’t have her loyalty in the first place and nothing they could have done.
