Bisexual Threesomes
February 17, 2010 No Comments
Dear Madame X,
I am bi and have a lovely girlfriend. We’ve talked a lot about my needs for sexual freedom and we decided that a menage a trois would be a good way for me to fulfill my desires for men without violating our relationship. The problem is that every time my girlfriend approaches a man to make the suggestion I become horribly jealous. I’ve fantasized about being with her and another man and it’s really hot. Why can’t I get past this hurdle?
Green Eyed Monster
Dear Green Eyed Monster,
Looks like you’re having a conflict between fantasy and reality here.
Sometimes what we fantasise about is better left in our heads. When it comes to the real thing life is much more complicated and can throw all kinds of hurdles in your way.
It looks like you might not want to share your girlfriend with another man after all. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s human nature to keep our mates close; something about knowing who the father is if she gets pregnant, according to the biological psychologists anyways.
There are a couple of options for you here.
As appealing as the idea is that you and your girlfriend have a threesome, that doesn’t mean you have to do it. Just because you are attracted to men doesn’t mean you have to have sex with them. If the jealousy is too much for you it is better keeping the fantasy a fantasy rather than risking the health of your relationship for one night of sex.
On the other hand, you can try having a threesome in spite of the jealousy. It’s possible that the jealousy will lead to a more passionate encounter and a greater chemistry between you and your girlfriend.
If you do have the threesome make sure to evaluate it afterwards. If the jealousy was too much for you to handle then you never have to do it again. At least you tried and have that night of adventure to look back on.
And if you decide that it wasn’t so bad after all, then you have lots of nights of adventurous sex ahead of you. (Just make sure to practice safer sex and wear condoms!)
It seems like you and your girlfriend have a good sex life, so, whatever you decide to do, go have fun.
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