Gagging For It

Dear Madame X,

My boyfriend likes to pull out half way through sex and shove his cock in my mouth. I do not like this. Last time it nearly made me vomit. Is there anyway I can start to like this, or will I just have to insist on him not doing it?

Not Gagging For It

Dear Not Gagging For It,

Good grief! How long have you been putting up with this?! Tell your boyfriend to stop already!

Sex is supposed to be fun, exciting, happy, intimate, etc. and you’re going to start dreading it if you are always anticipating something that makes you feel like vomiting.

It seems from your letter like you’ve been trying for a while to like it but with no success. If you don’t like it then stop forcing yourself to.

You don’t say if you enjoy giving him oral sex normally, but this is quite different. And if you do like normal oral sex you’d better tell him to stop this soon otherwise you are going to start hating anything to do with his cock in your mouth, and that would be sad for both of you.

You don’t want this to end in a situation where you feel used and violated. He may think you like doing this if you haven’t said anything before. You need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel.

Tell him what you like to do during sex. Find out what he likes to do. Then experiment in ways that are compromised and comfortable for both of you.

You don’t say if he ejaculates in your mouth when he does this, but you do need to keep in mind the potential for passing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) around. Anytime someone ejaculates there is that risk. If you want to let him ejaculate in your mouth please do make sure he gets a sexual health screening, including for HIV.

And I guarantee you he would rather not “shove his cock in my mouth” than make you uncomfortable (if he’s a nice guy anyways – if not, he’s probably not worth dating).

It’s time to use your mouth for verbal communication instead of oral.

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