Women, It’s Time To Claim Your Orgasm

The biggest sex survey since Kinsey was just released and it looks like women still aren’t orgasming as much as their partners think they are.

Only 64% of women reported orgasm at last sex, but 85% of men thought their partners orgasmed at last sex. What is going on here?

Women need to stop faking it and stop relying on men to provide them with pleasure.

If women don’t care and are happy without, then that’s fine, but I doubt that would be true in most cases. They need to tell their partners what they want, guide his hands, and literally take control and do it themselves if need be.

The idea that someone “gives” you an orgasm is absurd. It’s up to you to claim it for yourself and if that doesn’t happen the only one to blame is you.

The survey where these results came from, The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, surveyed 5,865 people between 14- and 94-years-old and has other interesting findings.

They looked at condom use, percent of people performing certain sex acts, issues around orgasm, pain during sex, bisexual and homosexual statistics, and lots of other fun stuff.

One particularly interesting aspect to this survey is that it included teenagers. They now have a comprehensive survey of what 14- to 18-year-olds are doing in the bedroom. Something that is often hard to assess because of ethical constraints, but that is greatly welcomed because how can we do our job as sexual health professionals if we don’t actually know what the young people are up to?

They found that while 40% of 17-year-old boys had sex in the last year, only 27% of them had sex in the last three months. This means that 73% of 17-year-olds are not having sex regularly. And those who do are taking care of their health with 80% of them using condoms.

• These data about sexual behaviors and condom use in contemporary America are critically needed by medical and public health professionals who are on the front lines addressing issues such as HIV, sexually transmissible infections, and unintended pregnancy.

You can access the results here where they have given the public a link to download the papers that they have published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.