“Jealousy Will Make Me A Better Person”

Polygamy makes so little sense even the Mormons can’t explain it.

Kody has three wives and has his eye on a fourth in the TLC reality show Sister Wives. When he takes his first wife, Meri, out to an anniversary dinner she explains why she is feeling jealous and seems to question the fairness of the whole situation.

MERI: I just want you to acknowledge that I have these jealousy issues. If I were to be giving attention to another guy, how would it make you feel?

KODY: Obviously, it is just not something I am comfortable with imaging. The vulgarity of the idea of you with two husbands or with another lover sickens me. It seems wrong to God and nature. I understand this seems somewhat hypocritical and I don’t know how to get around it.

MERI: So…

KODY: With me answering the question there is no way for me to win, ok? Let me tell you the emotion of it…

MERI: I’m not trying to win.

KODY: … is not something I’ve ever tried to deal with. I get that?

MERI: Oh, you get that? What do you get? Tell me what you get?

KODY: I feel like I’m admitting what I’m doing is completely and totally unfair. I feel like if I address that emotion, it is just an unhealthy place to go.

MERI: It’s there every day and it’s in my face and it’s in Janelle’s face and it’s in Christine’s face. It’s something that we’ve chosen and it’s something we’re ok with. It is something that I know will help me grow and make me a better person. What I would like from you… is just some understanding and patience, I think.

It doesn’t seem like anyone can justify the double-standard, which makes me wonder why this is a lifestyle they have chosen for themselves.

I have written about polygamy before and while I’m happy for adults to do what they want to, I can’t help but feel as if Meri knows she’s acting against her best interests.