Feminists For Anal SexJanuary 31, 2011 No Comments
Anal sex has been declared a feminist issue.
Abortion and the ”low-commitment peer sexual culture” that it spawned are to blame for women being disempowered, having sex simply to please their boyfriends, and causing all kinds of mental health problems.
In this article, Maggie Gallagher, founder of the National Organization for Marriage, focuses specifically on anal sex as an example of how bad women have it and how to “succeed you have to deform your body to be like a man, to do what men like.”
Of course she is wrong. Abortion is a form of empowerment. It allows women the choice to do what they want rather than being a slave to their biology.
And of course some women have sex just to please men, but what about the fact that women enjoy sex? There are a lot of reasons to have sex, one of which might be because your partner wants to do it, but in the end it always comes down to the fact that no matter why you start, once you’re into it it feels really good!
And there’s no reason we should be picking on anal sex as an example of how badly women are treated.
Gallagher says that ”by age 23, 33 percent of never-married young women in the Add Health survey say they’ve had anal sex” and 15% ”enjoy it ‘very much’.” What this tells me is that one-third of young women want to experiment with anal sex so good for them for trying something new.
Anal sex may be a response to our “porn-saturated culture” but saying that “young men rule the roost” implies that all men are bullying all women into anal sex. Does Gallagher really think that all men are sexually abusive and all women are abused? Because that’s what the implication is here.
- Anal sex is painful, unsanitary, unsatisfying for women, and creates unique risks for serious physical diseases… because the anus is not designed for sexual intercourse, increasing the risk of torn flesh and the intermingling of bodily fluids — blood, semen, fecal matter — that can spread an astonishing variety of diseases. The female partner is far more at risk than the man in these encounters. This should be a feminist issue.
It’s only painful if you do it wrong and it’s only dangerous if you’re having unprotected sex with someone whose sexual health status you don’t know. And that is your choice. We all know that condoms exist and we all know that lubricants exist. If a woman chooses not to use these and put herself at risk, that’s her concern.
It’s only if a women is actually being forced into anal sex against her will, or even forced to do it without a condom, that it becomes a feminist issue (rape is bad, etc.) Other than that, so long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, then what they do behind closed doors is nobody else’s business.
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