Daddy Issues
March 17, 2011 1 Comment
Everybody loves a slut. Of course, no self-respecting wife, mother or sister would whore themselves out that way. There must be something separating real women from these cock-gobbling sex fiends and that is — Daddy Issues.
My feminist fury came out in full force while watching Mr Sunshine last night. In this episode Lingerie Football players come to play a game at the Sunshine Center and the main character (whatever his name is) hopes to hook up with one afterwards.
He makes her wait all night for their fuck-fest, but she decides to leave just as he returns. Angry, our “hero” turns to his companion who was tasked with babysitting the half dressed Quarterback:
- What did you do? Jesse, you gave her self-esteem!
So just to recap: This guy is pissed because the woman he wanted to sleep with has become a happier person, thus depriving him of her pussy.
This is not the only show which views women with emotional problems as a plus. In How I Met Your Mother and Two And A Half Men, girls with “Daddy Issues” are fetishized. The implication is that these girls will do anything you want, but it’s also pretty clear that these women would not act the way they do without needing to fill the void left by their absent fathers.
The message is that taking advantage of emotionally abused women is fun. Adding insult to injury, the plots often involve the guys being complete assholes to these needy girls. For example, Barney lures a woman back to an apartment which he says is his, promising a wonderful future together. Taken in, she sleeps with him not knowing that the house belongs to someone else. While she’s showering he slips out, never to see her again.
Ha ha ha! Sucker! He showed her that men will continue to hurt her.
The joke is that these women are often so messed in the head they believe anything the men say, even the most ludicrous stories, in their quest to find acceptance/love/sex etc. This turns the men into heartless predators, and turns sex into something vile.
Which leads me to the second reason this recurring gag pisses me off — kinky sex is not the result of a fucked up childhood. There are lots of perfectly nice, respectable girls, with high self-esteem, who like to have carrots shoved up their asses during sex. Emotionally stable women sometimes like being tied up, and ladies who drink tea with a pinky in the air might enjoy watching some hardcore pornography before engaging in a three-way.
These shows perpetuate the stereotype of women as victims and men as abusers. It’s supposed to be funny, or sexy, but most of the time it’s just a little bit sad.
It’s the 21st Century. Let’s admit that women like having crazy, no string attached sex just as much as men. Let’s own up to the fact that fucking someone up is not nearly as fun as just fucking them. And for heaven’s sake, let’s leave the girls with daddy issues alone long enough to sort out their problems.
Come on Hollywood, you don’t have to be heartless to have a hard-on.
Contact the author here: mick@morningquickie.com
Well said. A lot of these shows and segments operate under the stereotype that women are not really sexual beings, as men are. Women want sex only as a means to an end whereas men want sex as a thing in itself. It’s bullshit of course. The societal cues are still pretty strong on denying women full access to their sexuality.