Men Say “I Love You” First

Men are declaring their feelings of love much sooner than women. Is it all for sex or could they actually love us?

Men are known for their so-called bottled up emotions. A “real” man would never dare to express too much to his lady at the risk of making him less manly. But it’s not 1950 anymore and men and women are equal. A new study found that men are actually saying “I love you” before women two-thirds of the time.

The first thing that comes through everyone’s mind is that men are simply horny beasts and are using this influential phrase to get in their girl’s panties. They want to get it in, so they use the most powerful tool fair maidens could fall for: their love.

Is it that hard to believe that men could be in love with us for us, not just our lady parts?

They are capable of human emotion, after all. The whole thing is really a diss to men.  There is the possibility of something controlling their actions other than their junk. Sure, they are famous for pushing sex and there still are those men who will act emotional just to get in the sack. But is it so hard to believe that men are saying “I love you”? — How could they NOT love us?

While Dr Laura Berman believes that men want to spread their seed while women are just looking for a suitable mate, the whole thing kind of makes me nauseous. Stereotyping us as needy wimps needing to hear “I love you” before and after to do the deed, this study and explanation are trying to make it seem as though it is the stone age and all we want is comfort and a baby.

Sure, we may want a guy who won’t suck as a dad, but is that really all we want from him? Come on. Historically, men were always the ones pushing to screw, but is it so taboo to say that we might actually like it too? We’re also pleasure-seekers nowadays.

So, is there a chance that they are saying ”I love you” first just to get us to melt and spread ‘em? Sure. But there is such a thing as a normal relationship with an equal balance of love and sex. Why try to make it seem like it is just about procreation?

If he loves you, he loves you. So, let him love you and reap all of the benefits.

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