Don’t Let Your Lover Pull A Weiner!

No one likes to think about their partner lusting after others, but they definitely do. Just as you have one or two errant thoughts about your assistant, he has them about that red-headed waitress. Yet no one would think this is a threat to your relationship. However, add in a few texts and you have an entirely different story.

It seems as if a few wireless messages are going to be the end of Congressman Anthony Weiner, his political career if not his marriage. He admitted to engaging in sext play with six women earlier this week, thus living up to his name and bringing up the age-old debate of what exactly constitutes cheating. Does sexting count?

Because sexting is purely virtual and involves no physical contact, some argue it’s not cheating. As President Jimmy Carter once said: “I’ve looked on many women with lust. I’ve committed adultery in my heart many times. God knows I will do this and forgives me.”

Feeling a tinge of desire for someone outside of your relationship is almost inevitable. Even without the religious aspect, society recognizes you can look and enjoy it without it hurting your relationship; why would all those top 100 sexy people charts exist otherwise?

But that initial attraction and active sexual exchange are different; that is where cheating lies.

Weiner went further than just looking. He contacted these women, pursued them and he sent them sexually charged messages–including an extreme close-up picture of his erect penis (with boxers on and without) — before and during his marriage. In typical monogamous relationships, that’s a no-go. It’s not inoffensive flirting when it becomes that explicit and it is not like watching porn because there is a response on the other end.

But it all depends on where you draw the line. No relationship is the same and people assign different values to different levels of intimacy. The problem is when the couple is unclear about where that line is for each of them.

Don’t leave the sexting loophole open if you don’t want your partner to pull a Weiner on you!

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