Fear Of Fatherhood Leads To Faulty Penis

Dear Madame X,

My penis is unhealthy. When it gets up it won’t stay up and then she cries and I feel terrible. My lady and I are trying to have kids and she wants them real bad.

I want to have sex. I’m only 35. Should I take Viagra? Is the cheap Canadian stuff safe?

Manhood before Fatherhood

Dear Manhood,

You don’t say when this problems started, but if it’s fairly recent then my first thought is that you don’t really want to have kids.

A lot of physical problems come from underlying mental health problems, and there’s the possibility that a fear of having kids, or maybe something else along those lines, is what’s leading to your erection problems.

My advice would be to ignore all the fancy pills you see advertized and get yourself to a counsellor. You need to examine where this is coming from and if maybe there are some relationship issues with your lady that you need to work out before becoming parents together.

I also think you need to get yourself to a doctor, just to rule out any physical problems that might be causing this, but my bets are on fear of fatherhood.

Please take a close look at yourself and what you want out of life because every child deserves the best and this child deserves to be wanted.

Hopefully, with help, you and your lady can work this out. But if your lady really wants kids and you don’t she deserves to know the truth. And if I’m wrong and it’s a physical problem, then the doctors can get you sorted out and you will be having good sex again in no time.

Madame X is a master of sex. She is adamantly pro-sex which she translates to pro-fun and pro-safety. An avid practitioner of the activity, she has also been trained in the technical dos and don’ts. No mere agony aunt, she knows of what she speaks. Send her your questions, comments, and concerns about sex and relationships here.