Not All Women Are Porn Stars

Talking about sex is still considered taboo in most families. Our high school sex education (for those of us that get it) teaches us the anatomical and scientific things about sex. But we are never actually taught about real sex, the one that has nothing to do with science. This would be great if we were left to develop our own thoughts and expectations about sex through trial and error in relationships, but that is not the case. Most of our knowledge of what sex “should” be like comes from either movies or porn. The end of result is confusion.

Even if you’ve never watched porn, you know the stereotype. All of the women are lusty sex-crazed sluts who want to fulfill all of a man’s fantasies. Movies aren’t much better. It’s like women’s expectations have gone from the modest virgin to the insatiable sex-goddess. I don’t know which is worse.

Young men expect their girlfriends to always want to have sex, and they expect it to be a hot, sweaty, screaming match every single time. In an age where women watch porn too, young women hold the same expectations for themselves and end up disappointed. Why don’t I have explosive orgasms every time I have sex? Why would I rather watch a movie tonight than have sex? Why don’t I want to be sexually degraded?

The answer is easy: porn sex is not realistic sex, and not all women are porn stars.

If couples could realize this, it would end a lot of confusion and disappointment in the bedroom. Sometimes women just plain don’t want to have sex (the same goes for men, too). We are not all lusty Pam Andersons, and that has to be okay. Sex is different for everyone and shouldn’t be modeled off of pornos and chick flicks.

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