Flirting Your Way To The Top
August 26, 2011 4 Comments
We know that men like sexy women, pretty faces, nice boobies, curvy figures, and beautiful hair. They also tend to be bosses and attain higher positions within businesses over women. So, do we use what we know to get ourselves ahead? Samantha Brick seems to think so.
“If I had a choice of how to spend my ideal lunch hour, it’s a no-brainer. Each and every time I’d choose to flirt over lunch with a male superior,” she writes. Sure, she sounds like a blonde bimbo trying to sleep her way to the top, but she is in fact a university-educated, hard working woman who seems to just have played a few cards right.
Sexiness has helped her to a six figure salary, Mercedes, huge house, and a high-ranking position in her industry. She swears she has the way to the top on lock: flirting. “They adore being flirted with, love to have their egos stroked and — above all else — they yearn for the attention of an attractive woman.”
Sounds good. But wouldn’t making it to the top feel a lot better if sheer intelligence got you there?
It would, but is it possible? Men love a pretty face and pretty people have been proven to get farther in their careers. As much as image should not play a role in the corporate world, it seems that there is little to no way out. Damn.
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You know what I’m going to say, don’t you??! Hahaha. But honestly, in short, this attitude is anti-feminist. Women also have to fight to be taken seriously if they’re sexy. Women continuing to use manipulation to get ahead keeps this attitude alive and kicking, it also helps to reinforce female disunity. No one should get ahead in any field unless they are good at it, man or woman. The way for women to be taken seriously in the work place or in fact all walks of life, is to first take ourselves seriously. Stop pandering to the male dominance and preferences and support each other to achieve equality and ‘sisterhood’!
sure you can say its manipulative and anti-feminist. but men do the same thing. they’re cutthroat, competitive and some are not afraid to use dirty tricks and manipulation to get what they want. they use what they have to get what they want. So why can’t women? should’ve women be allowed to use what they have to get what they want?
men and women are different. doesn’t mean that men are better; but just different. they have a way of dealing with things, and women do to. A man and woman in the workplace both want success and money. They just have their own certain ways of getting to it. It has nothing to do with how good they are at their jobs. Loads of people who are fantastic at their jobs get fired and loads of people who can’t do their jobs right get hired. No matter what, doesn’t matter if its right or wrong people will look for that edge to get ahead of the competition.
A man who screws over his coworker to get a promotion gets looked down on by his peers. A woman flirts with her senior to get a promotion gets looked down by her peers. Either way, its two different ways to get to the same place.
Couldn’t agree more!
I don’t disagree with your statement but just cause they (men) do underhanded things doesn’t make it right. Just cause men act like shits doesn’t mean women should do too! As a female who has had to struggle to be respected for something other than the way i look, this attitude hurts all women. The women who are good often get overlooked for those who manipulate their way to the top, look a certain way or go against other females to obtain power. It causes a divide between women, a lack of females in top jobs, and a misrepresentation of ‘powerful’ women rolemodels for the next generation of girls. Ultimatley the aim of feminism is to unite us and empower ourselves and each other. Being an ass isn’t empowerment. Manipulation, using sex, dirty tricks, going against other women is not empowerment. This is more about a certain type of person than what sex you are…..I guess it comes down to how you want to be seen, respected and remembered. Sleeping/flirting my way to the top is the least of my goals in life, just as much as i wouldnt want to backstab or bitch other people out of positions. I do and have fought for women to be taken seriously for something other than their looks, to be respected as a person and i wouldnt want to be at the ‘top’ of something that respected women so little…..
Even in my profession it’s hard in a male dominated work place. I have to work 10 times harder at some points just to be taken seriously and the natural assumption is that i’ll use what i’ve got to get ahead (i resent people thinking this of me and of women in general – but whilst they still do it, the attitude/stereotype will still be put on the rest of us) but i’d rather work harder than pander to the male egos and harmful stereotypes. I’ve proved myself and now they respect me for me, not for my body or ability to flirt. Boys clubs can be overcome with concerted effort and female unity…. It’s tough but the easy option is very rarely the best. And this attitude is something we should fight against, not encourage for ambitious women. In my experience it’s usually the ones who actually aren’t very good that have to use underhanded techniques to get ahead in their jobs. Male or female.