Have Sex Or Get SuedSeptember 6, 2011 3 Comments
If you’re not having sex with your partner, you may not be fulfilling your marital obligations.
Love and marriage are much more than sex, but a recent court decision proves that sex is significant. The story goes something like this: an unnamed Frenchwoman marries a Frenchman (“named only as Jean-Louis B”), he doesn’t hold up his sexual end of the bargain, she sues him, wins, and he picks up the pieces (pays her “damages”).
This isn’t a scenario I intend to trivialize. It would be difficult to be married to someone who didn’t want you, desire you and give you the physical intimacy that you ache for. A “lack of sex over 21 years of marriage” is a serious dry spell enough to drive anyone crazy.
Despite the husband’s reasons for refusing sex, which included “tiredness” and “health problems,” the judge couldn’t help but side with the sex-starved wife. He ordered Jean-Louis B to pay for damages because “a sexual relationship between husband and wife is the expression of affection they have for each other, and in this case it was absent.”
I’m inclined to agree with the judge’s decision. I don’t want to imagine what 21 years without sex is really like. But let’s say the wife claimed emotional neglect. Would the judge have ruled in her favour? Would it be the same as physical neglect?
In this case, it’s hard to separate wrong from right. When you turn sex into an obligation, it’s zapped of all passion, romance or spontaneity. Then again, sometimes you have to suck it up for your partner.
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