Maybe Kardashian Forgot To Look Past The Wedding

After less than three months of marriage Kim Kardashian announced she is to divorce her husband Kris Humphries. Most of us were quick to assume the wedding was all a publicity stunt, but are whirlwind marriages really that uncommon, even outside Hollywood?

Many young couples are seduced by the dream wedding perhaps not seeing past the honeymoon. Who doesn’t love cake and presents? But with four in ten first marriages ending in divorce, is the fruit cake really worth it?

With marriages statistics looking so bleak, it begs the question – which came first the chicken or the gift wrapped egg cups? Divorce becoming increasingly socially acceptable naturally increased the frequency. Over time this has left divorce to be virtually stigma-free in North American culture. If the couple has no children they can even pretend it didn’t happen.

While common law marriages are increasingly common, those who wish to have children still prefer to do so within a married union. So females with an aggressively ticking biological clock will inevitably be left with a decision to make. Thirty-one-year-old Kardashian was no exception making her desire to start a family very public: “I want a family and babies and a real life so badly that maybe I rushed in to something too soon.”

Its a hard pill to swallow to think lovers are so enamoured with getting married they forget about actually being married. Especially with the cost of the average Canadian wedding totalling over $23,000. Emotional trauma aside it is a rather pricey mistake to make.

With 30-40 percent of couples only moving in together after their big day it isn’t any wonder that over time incompatibility rears its ugly head. While I appreciate the moral behind the “buying the cow milk vs getting milk for free” conundrum, eventually the cow has to move in and when they do living together may provide a steep learning curve.

Maybe if she hadn’t rushed into the marriage and got to know her fiancé a bit better before the wedding, she wouldn’t be another unfortunate statistic.

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