Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater

Remember Sandra Bullock’s ex husband Jesse James? Picture a tattoo artist with a touch of trailer park for colour? Well after Sandra dumped him for cheating he has been shacking up with his top mistress Kat Von D. But not only her.

Miss Von D announced that she had encountered the 19th girl who James had cheated with during their one year relationship. Von D admitted to thinking she could smack the cheating out of James but it would appear this stallion could not be tamed. She wouldn’t be the first woman to think she could convert a cheater.

What is it that makes women want to “rescue” a man from themselves? Sandra was mature enough to see serial adultery was not something she could “fix.” So why do Von D and so many other females knowingly decide to date a man who has cheated?

Men don’t only cheat simply because their girlfriend is a little frumpy or lacking in conversation. Whether its WAGS like Cheryl Cole and Abby Clancy or high-profile actresses like Halle Berry and Elizabeth Hurley beautiful women are not immune to men’s indiscretions.

There are many complex and not so complex reasons why men cheat but we are not talking about what to do when your man has been unfaithful. The question is why would a single girl take on someone else’s cheating boyfriend after they have been named, shamed and tossed out? Is being single so terrifying?

I suppose some women must like the challenge it presents. Perhaps an overly confident lady might think they know or have something all of the other girls didn’t. Although apart from a home castration kit and CIA grade tracking system I can’t think what that would be.

Some argue that women’s desire to change a man is derived from insecurity so they won’t leave. On the contrary, I think confident women are secure that what they have to offer is what the other women were lacking. Unfortunately, while these women may be brimming with confidence, they are seriously lacking in logic.

You may be able to keep him entertained temporarily but if we know anything about men who serially cheat it is that they have the attention span of a 5-year-old with ADHD. So unless you have a friend with a prescription pad and some brain engaging toys, accept that you will never be able to keep them constantly entertained and move on.

Even if you could “convert” a man into being faithful perhaps that time and energy could be used for something more interesting like reading, going to the gym, or thinking of synonyms for cheater. There aren’t enough if you ask me. Ladies please PLEASE — date a gay man, date an older man, get your cougar on, but please don’t try to turn a Jude Law into a fidelity law abider. Its painful and unnecessary.

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