Doesn’t Want A Face Full Of It
December 14, 2011 No Comments
Dear Madame X,
My boyfriend has recently has been talking about cumming on my face. I know he watches porn, and I think he got the idea from porn movies. I do not like the idea of being part of some gross, porn-inspired fantasy, and don’t see why anyone would want a face full of semen. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly three years, and everything has been fine until now. I don’t want to break up with him, but I also don’t want to be part of this fantasy. What should I do?
Not a Porn Star
Dear Not a Porn Star,
The answer is easy: tell him you don’t want to do it.
If you aren’t willing to try it then he needs to know this and he needs to respect your decision.
Maybe he also needs a reminder that porn is not real life. If people watch a lot of porn they can sometimes become desensitized to what is normal and what is not. And cum in the face is not normal for most of us. Yes, some people enjoy it, but it’s not a very pleasant thing if you don’t want it. It stings like hell if you get it in your eyes and you can even get STIs this way.
There’s no reason to think about dumping him over this unless he tries to bully you into it, but I have to wonder why you mentioned it. Do you have a hard time standing up for yourself? Are there other problems and this is just the last straw? Is he often unreasonable and disrespectful of your feelings? Does he bully you into things you don’t want to do? If so, you need to sort this out pronto because this is not acceptable behaviour.
Talk with him. Tell him how you feel. I’m sure there’s something else you guys can try that you’ll both agree on if you want to be a bit more adventurous and keep the spark alive.
Madame X is a master of sex. She is adamantly pro-sex which she translates to pro-fun and pro-safety. An avid practitioner of the activity, she has also been trained in the technical dos and don’ts. No mere agony aunt, she knows of what she speaks. Send her your questions, comments, and concerns about sex and relationships here.
