Why Macho Men Are Sexy

Dear Madame X,

I seem to be only attracted to men who are macho assholes. I like them at first but after a while I can’t stand it. Why does this keep happening?

Macho Man Lover

Dear Macho Man Lover,

Macho men have a lot of attractive qualities mixed in with the unattractive ones. All that testosterone is sexy, they can make you feel special and taken care of, make you feel sexy too. But after a while sometimes they can be controlling assholes.

The trick is to find a happy medium. A sexy, confident man, who can take care of you, but also respects you and treats you like an equal. Trust me — there are plenty of men like that out there.

Knowing you have this tendency will make it easier for you because you can be a bit more discerning with the men you choose to date. Pay more attention to the cues that point to the characteristics you don’t like.

There’s someone out there for everyone, and with time you will find a more suitable partner.

Madame X is a master of sex. She is adamantly pro-sex which she translates to pro-fun and pro-safety. An avid practitioner of the activity, she has also been trained in the technical dos and don’ts. No mere agony aunt, she knows of what she speaks. Send her your questions, comments, and concerns about sex and relationships here.