Dear Madame X, My boyfriend really likes handcuffs, whips and the whole deal. He thinks I’m sexy in leather. He keeps asking me to be rougher in bed, which I don’t really like. He asked me several times to try dying my hair red and even bought me some dye from a pharmacy! I always ...
Dear Madame X, This is a question of etiquette. My lover has requested that I wear a butt plug all day for him. He would like this to be a normal day. However, I hold a high level position in my company which requires me to attend meetings, often several times a day. While I ...
Is it impossible to take gender equality from the streets to the sheets? From the boardroom to the bedroom? You wouldn’t think so, but Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam do. The pair has released a controversial new book entitled A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the world’s largest experiment reveals about human desires. Declaring themselves the ...
A man in Oklahoma is being charged with kidnapping, domestic abuse, and a misdemeanor domestic abuse case. He says it was all consensual, he didn’t do what they say he did, and it’s discrimination against his bondage/dominance/sadomasochist (BDSM) lifestyle. It is true that BDSM is not well understood. To most of us the idea of inflicting pain on ...
Total body sex is the idea that all parts of the body can give and receive pleasure; that erogenous zones are not limited to the genitals and face. This is the goal of all sexual pleasure. Amazon.com WidgetsWritten in the Flesh, A History of Desire, takes a look at what kind of sex people have always ...
Toni Morrison’s novel Beloved arrived in my hands via a public library, when I was a broke teenager with...
My attention was drawn this week to an article about the reaction at a Canadian university to proposals to...
Airport security. Bloody nuisance. Also a conspiracy designed to subjugate women. Allow me to elaborate. Despite flying quite a...
The Cannes film festival has kicked off this week with controversy over the lack of films made by women...
Dear Madame X, I seem to be only attracted to men who are macho assholes. I like them at...
When A Clockwork Orange was published in 1962, the term sexualized violence wasn’t in use. The distinction between sexualized...
Skincare. Not so very long ago, a man would have been mocked mercilessly for using just the word, never...
Laptop bags; conspiracy of the patriarchal overlords. Oh yes. I am a woman with hands. The average-sized hands of...
