Rejection is part of life. Especially your love life. And when it comes to asking women for a date, every guy – even the best, most confident, most popular, best looking ones – whisper a silent prayer to the heavens that you won’t be rejected.
But why would women say no to your date invite anyway? Do you know how to ask someone out on a date? What are the usual reasons why women don’t go out on dates with certain men, go with others? Here’s a little something to help you figure out why you were rejected, and hopefully, ways to help you devise ways to make your date invites rejection-proof (or at least be rejected less often).
Reasons why you’ll receive a “NO”
Here are reasons and signs why she would say ‘no’ to you. Go figure:
- She does not like you. Well, can it get any more obvious than this? This is the soundest, most logical reason for any woman to say ‘no’ to someone who asks her out on a date.
- She is in a relationship, flirtationship, open relationship, exclusively dating, or whatever you call ‘committed’ these days. There’s someone special, there’s no room for you, so yep, she wouldn’t and couldn’t go out with you. Go ask someone else aka someone single.
- Your approach was a little too arrogant. A little confidence does not hurt. But if it does cross the borders into becoming an arrogant creeper, then she’d likely to say no. The best way to approach women is to have a half-and-half of humility and confidence; arrogance only works for those who are heavily moneyed dudes looking to date gold digging ladies.
- Your approach was vague. Sometimes, women could misinterpret or totally not understand what you said. And it’s only natural and defensive of women to say no to things that they are uncertain about.
- You seemed like all you’re after is to get laid. Okay, so this must be a guy thing. But a decent lady would not only say no to some guy who’s a little too obvious about his lustful intents; she’d hate it. So make sure you don’t give her that vibe.
- Your invite was a little too shy. You need to be a little bit more assertive, more sure of yourself if you want positive results. While you shouldn’t do so much as be an arrogant prick, at least be more confident of yourself and of who you are.
- Your asked her at a wrong time. Maybe you asked her when she’s busy, or when she’s in a bad mood, or when her mind is focused elsewhere or she’s just plainly not in the mood to entertain a potential suitor.
- Your invitation does not seem appealing. You can’t fully expect a positive answer if you’re asking a wild partying girl to go out with you for tea and yoga. Or a nerd to enjoy a rock concert or something. Make sure that your proposed date seems appealing to her.
- She does not know you. “It’s never safe to go out on dates with men you don’t know”, that’s what all girls have been taught. So don’t expect a random stranger girl to go out with you after exchanging your names. She may think that you only think of “I want to get my ex back, and here’s what I read“, don’t use other girl to get a girl back!