September 10, 2011
Our editor, back from her lost weekend cruising the loucher bars of festival Edinburgh, recently brought an article to my attention. It took the rather unusual stance (at least for a feminist author) that men, finding themselves, as they generally do, in severely straitened sexual circumstances following marriage, are to be admired on a daily ...
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September 6, 2011
If you’re not having sex with your partner, you may not be fulfilling your marital obligations. Love and marriage are much more than sex, but a recent court decision proves that sex is significant. The story goes something like this: an unnamed Frenchwoman marries a Frenchman (“named only as Jean-Louis B”), he doesn’t hold up ...
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France civil code,
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love,
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sexless marriage
June 16, 2010
Dear Madame X, Medical issues have left me constantly fatigued. I’ve spoken to the doctors and there isn’t much I can do about it until I go off the medication which I cannot do. I’m still interested in sex but not as much as I used to be and once we get started I just ...
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testosterone,
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June 11, 2010
Can you imagine what it would feel like to never be turned on? Not by a sexy movie star or even your partner? Asexuals are one of the most misunderstood sexual orientations, and I’m willing to bet you have never even heard of them. Unlike being gay, which is mostly tolerated, a lot of people ...
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sex drive,
sex in media,
sexual dysfunction,
sexual orientations
October 21, 2009
Dear Madame X, My wife has begun to lactate. We are managing to keep our sex lives quite active through sleepless nights etc. I enjoy breast-play, but sometimes the milk gets in my mouth. She assures me that it’s safe, but she’s so worried about me not being attracted to her (my wife is still ...
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babies,
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breastfeeding,
breasts,
communication,
desire discrepancy,
fathers,
HIV,
mothers,
parents,
pregnancy,
romance,
Sex With Madame X,
sexually transmitted infections
September 30, 2009
Dear Madame X: I LOVE sex! And I love my girlfriend too. But I feel bad when I don’t want to have sex with her. Even if she is also not into it I feel like I’m not a good enough man. It’s like I should be having sex with her EVERY night, TWICE! Otherwise ...
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